Manlove for Ladies

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Mark Simp­son on the crossover of slash into the main­stream — or fash­slash

The Year In Ideas’, The Lon­don Times (Decem­ber 29, 2007)

When Noel Field­ing and Julian Bar­ratt of the hit BBC com­edy The Mighty Boosh snogged on air the other week, it may have looked as if they were pan­der­ing, tongues lit­er­ally in cheeks, to gay male fans. At first glance the swarm of com­ments on the YouTube clip (now removed) of the clinch seemed to con­firm this: “The hottest thing I’ve ever seen!” and “Oh sweet baby Jesus!”, being typ­i­cal examples.

Until you get to: “I broked my ovaries!!” — and then you realise that most if not all the posters perv­ing shame­lessly over this man-on-man action are actu­ally female.

Wel­come to the won­der­ful, if some­times slightly per­plex­ing, world of ladies who love men lov­ing men. Once, this scene was con­fined to obscure online groups of “slash­ers” — women who sub­ver­sively outed a homo­erotic sub­text within the “buddy” genre for one another. So Starsky played with Hutch’s clutch and Sam fin­gered Mas­ter Frodo’s ring.

But, as we’ve increas­ingly seen, vir­tual day-dreaming has a way of infil­trat­ing tra­di­tional media. In a sign of the crossover of slash — fash­slash if you will — that Mighty Boosh snog seems to have been directly inspired by the online fren­zied fem­i­nine fan­ta­sis­ing about this male com­edy duo’s close friendship.

Mean­while, the semi-secret rea­son so many, from Des­per­ate House­wives to Coro­na­tion Street, have boy-on-boy romances now is not so much polit­i­cal cor­rect­ness, but a grow­ing aware­ness that a large seg­ment of their mostly female audi­ence rather like see­ing pretty boys get­ting it on.

This, after all, has been the implicit erotic dynamic of all those scream­ingly suc­cess­ful gay-managed, gay-flirty boy­bands from the Bea­t­les to Wham to Take That. The huge suc­cess of Queer As Folk on both sides of the Atlantic was in part down to it’s slashy ‘Take That on Canal Street’ feel. Broke­back Moun­tain was essen­tially posh slash fic­tion that became a mas­sively suc­cess­ful fash­slash movie.

Some­times though, today’s ladies’ overt and some­times over-eager inter­est in manlove — the Queer Eye of the Straight Gal — can make men rather… shy. Ear­lier this year, a gay bar in Mel­bourne had to go to court to get an order ban­ning women. Appar­ently they were descend­ing on the club en masse to ogle the canoodling men.

Read what the slash­ers them­selves have to say about this article.

17 Comments

  • Just like L wrote:

    Hi Mark Simpson,

    I just dis­cov­ered your work recently and I’m so happy about it. So inter­est­ing to read!
    I wanted to say that I’m just like the reader “L” above. Read­ing slash, lov­ing gay sto­ry­lines, ador­ing men on men action… etc. the whole thing. Maybe it’s a fetish but it feels like more to me. Have you ever encoun­tered the term Girlfag in your research? You have to look at their live­jour­nal page. I iden­tify as a girlfag, even came out to some peo­ple includ­ing hus­band 3 years ago. Would love to read some­thing about it in main­stream media even­tu­ally, so I don’t have to feel I have to hide that part of myself.

  • That’s true Mark. They got it just right, hope­fully next years will con­tinue with the same wel­come to all attitude.

  • It makes sense that straight women find two men together as erotic. I think your right that ’ Queer as folk’ played a more recent part. I sup­pose been a admirer of James Dean, Monty Clift, Cary Grant from a lit­tle girl made the idea of two man together back then roman­tic as it was for­bid­den and career destroy­ing. More impor­tantly Mark, even­though I was unaware these books cre­ated by women for women( prob­a­bly one of the only media out­lets that is) about gay sex. You should tell them to move other as you are to write from the prospec­tive of a gay man. Regard­ing Canal Street, I think it very hen par­ties that parade around prob­a­bly because they feel safe. Liverpool’s Pride was aimed at fam­ily and friends not exclusive.

  • I wish I’d made it to Liv­er­pool Pride. Liv­er­pool, if I’m not mis­taken, is very much about friends and family.…

  • The main rea­son I didn’t watch SATC very much was because I believed they had that much money to spend on clothes.

    A cou­ple of years ago, me and a TV pro­ducer pal tried to inter­est the ‘groovy’ UK TV chan­nels in com­mis­sion­ing a doc­u­men­tary about manlove for the ladies and its (highly influ­en­tial) secret his­tory — pre­sented by a suit­ably feisty lady. I believe some­one from SATC was suggested.

    All the com­mis­sion­ing edi­tors approached turned it down. I was told they all, male and female — but mostly male — refused to believe it really existed.

  • AndrewGMooney wrote:

    Dear Inno­cents!

    Any­one of a ‘sen­si­tive dis­po­si­tion’: Turn your head away from the screen. Right now. I’ve just ‘remem­bered’ a lyric from the ‘delight­ful’ Mr Slim Shady.
    Cau­tion! Quite pos­si­bly N.S.F.W if you fol­low the lyric link.
    Which I don’t advise if you’re either Andrea Dworkin or Cather­ine McKinnon!

    She said “Come in, its unlocked!“
    I walked in and all I smelled was Liz Clai­borne
    And seen her spread across the bed naked watchin gay porn
    She said “Come her big boy, lets get acquainted”.
    I turned around to run, twisted my ankle and sprained it”

    Lyric copy­right: Eminem
    http://www.songmeanings.net/lyric.php?lid=603

    Or if your polit­i­cal pref­er­ences dic­tate as you sit at your P.C p.c [sic] Hic!
    ‘Mr In Dire Need of a Lyri­cal Enema’ : e-m-i-N-e-n-e-M– E !
    Like he (I, We: MPD) give a fc-uk!
    No! he (I, We: MPD) still don’t give a fc-uk!
    http://www.eminem.com/
    http://www.songmeanings.net/lyric.php?lid=606
    HIP HOP WILL NEVER DIE!!!!!

    Oh, dear! I’m ‘mor­ph­ing’ again…. Another ‘alter’, surely it‘s not pos­si­ble! Nurse, quickly! The screens!
    http://www.dailymail.co.uk/pages/live/articles/news/news.html?in_article_id=489655&in_page_id=1770

    Regards, Mar­shall, er ….Andrew.G.Mooney, aka:
    The Ulti­mate ‘Lyrical-Satirical-Surrealist Ter­ror­ist‘.
    http://www.timesonline.co.uk/tol/news/uk/crime/article2633764.ece

    Dis­turbed’ of Malvern Wells, Eng­land. 2000 + HATE!

    PS: Please don’t tell my neigh­bours about this post! I never talk 2 my net-twitchin’ runny– nosy neigh­bours: I’d rather not get involved, and so on and so forth.

    PPS: Copy­right…..? Does such a thing still exist? Well, if it does, this is. And every­thing else, Mark or I chew your scro­tum off with my bare teeth.
    Got it? Good. Now fc-uk off ‘n’ Fc-Uk y’all!

    Thank you and Goodnight!

  • Women have been get­ting off on gay men since men have been get­ting off on les­bians. Why wouldn’t they? At the very least, (gross gen­er­al­i­sa­tion alert) gay men tend to look after them­selves bet­ter. But the fact that this seems to be a sur­prise — but not to you, I don’t sup­pose! — is much more to do with the notion that women are only sup­posed to have sex­ual desires within the con­text of “com­mit­ted rela­tion­ships”. Unless they are weird, child-hating, society-destroying per­verts.
    Any­way, I don’t think the Sex and the City women look­ing at gay porn has any­thing to do with “Saman­tha laugh­ing at men”. Any fule kno that lots of women, died in the wool les­bians included, like watch­ing gay male porn.
    A lot of the com­ment at the time that the women in sex in the city weren’t real­is­tic because the scripts were writ­ten by gay men is crap. The main bit of their lives I didn’t believe was the fact they had so much money to spend on clothes! Their sex lives seemed entirely plau­si­ble. But lots of peo­ple don’t like the idea that women can pur­sue sex like they did.

  • It’s a joke, dear.

  • Ma-a-a-rk…

    Haven’t vis­ited in a while, to my shame. Your call­ing your­self this ‘les­bo­sex­ual’ father makes me think you’ve…abandoned your fire for cliches. Stop categorising!

  • It must have made quite an impact on me then see­ing this one par­tic­u­lar instance of their shared joy. Yes, I’d have loved to have been there, although cer­tainly not as ‘one of the girls’ — on my own or with other men, gay or straight, cer­tainly. I got the impres­sion that it was another (prob­a­bly deserved) exam­ple of empow­ered women, espe­cially Saman­tha, laugh­ing at men gen­er­ally and enjoy­ing the added bonus of extra ‘prick­age’ to boot.

  • Nei­ther was I. But I believe they watched gay porn in one episode and admit­ted to one another that they found it a turn on. This was one of the first acknowl­edge­ments of the phe­nom­e­non on TV, but it seems to have been largely overlooked/disbelieved: ‘Oh, Sex in the City — aren’t they like Gay Men anyways?’

  • I was never a big watcher of Sex and the City but didn’t Saman­tha et al watch gay porn for a gig­gle all the time?

  • I’ve been say­ing for years that then ladies’ into boy-on-boy action is a more widely spread phe­nom­e­non than most peo­ple think. Look at authors like Patri­cia High­smith and Bar­bara Vine who seem to be fasi­nated with gay males. And in Japan there’s a whole genre of manga comics with roman­tic sto­ries about gay men writ­ten by women for women.

  • I’ve had this “fetish” for as long as i can remem­ber, I am now a woman in her thir­ties and I’m so thank­ful for youtube and all the free­dom it has brought about.
    I’ve been called faghag, per­vert, weirdo,and much worst, I have a dvd library that a gay man would be proud of and I have aquired the abil­ity to sniff out a gay sto­ry­line , be it in a soap or a movie a mile off.
    boy on boy action is girl porn, and long may it last.

  • Ann, you’re absolutely right. I am terrific.

    And, yes, slash hasn’t cre­ated women’s real-world enjoy­ment of see­ing hot manlove action. I meant to sug­gest online slash is help­ing to alert the tra­di­tional media to many women’s non-traditional sex­ual sen­si­bil­ity. But I prob­a­bly didn’t make that clear.

    It was a much smaller piece than I would have liked to have writ­ten about the sub­ject, which I find end­lessly fascinating.

    Espe­cially when it involves watch­ing drunken straight lads snog­ging one another in clubs because they’ve been ordered to by a lass, which seems to be increas­ingly com­mon, at least round these rural parts.

    Sex­ual equal­ity never looked so good.

  • Mark, you are ter­rific! You’ve been on top (sorry, pun intended) of this issue from the beginning.

    The one quib­ble I have is your asser­tion that the online “day­dream­ing” of slash fic­tion cre­ated women’s enjoy­ment of see­ing hot man-on-man action. I think it’s the other way round. Many women have always adored see­ing two hot guys get it on. Slash fic­tion helped us open up about what we like, to admit it and not be ashamed. Men are very open about lik­ing “les­bian” action. Why should we women have to deny that we like see­ing “gay” men in action?

    As for the shy boys in Mel­bourne, I do sym­pa­thize. Per­haps gay bars will have to start hav­ing front rooms and back rooms again–the front for men who like being watched, the back for men who want privacy.

  • AndrewGMooney wrote:

    Thank you for that, Mr Simpson.

    Str8’ males have been ‘OUT AND PROUD!’ about their wank-athons ‘over vol­canic Vulva on Vulva action for…how many thou­sand years?

    Alexan­der and var­i­ous Caesar’s tossed all kinds of sal­ads on their ‘adven­tures’. As, I’m sure did Cleopa­tra, as she opened one more cask of Tim­o­thy Taylor’s ale.…Fnar! Fnar!!

    Isn’t this just another sign of all the ‘won­der­ful equal­ity’ we are all now enjoying?

    That the ladeez can ‘Come Out’ about their curios­ity. Re: What, exactly, goes on in the show­ers when hubby’s ‘play­ing away’?

    Oh, and weren’t those ‘gays’ in Mel­bourne just ‘defend­ing a gay space’? You’re sup­posed to be the expert. Not me.

    Over­all: Doesn’t it make you happy to be alive as we ‘enter’ 2008, metaphor­i­cally and/or actu­ally? Good grief! Take that knob out of your mouth, boy — I’m talk­ing to you!

    I regret to inform you that I have tar­geted your site as part of my ongo­ing ‘exper­i­ment’ with this new-fangled Inter­web thingy — which has just arrived here in Mid­dle Eng­lande: Along with elec­tric­ity and The Royal Mail!

    Keep this quiet! Don’t tell any­one I’m an ‘invert’! I don’t want it all over ‘The Malvern Gazette’!!! Dis­cre­tion, please.

    Con­fused by your lex­i­con. What, exactly, is a ‘gay man’? I’ve tried to find out ‘The Rules’ but no book­shop seems to stock it here. Per­haps you could write a defin­i­tive guide as to how to ‘make the tran­si­tion’ for ‘nor­mal’ to…where exactly?

    How do you start? Where do go? Who do you need to know? Etc.

    Is there an on-line cor­re­spon­dence course on how to dis­tin­guish between ‘gay’ and ‘str8’? Let’s not talk about those ter­ri­ble bi — sex­ual –ists. They’re the worst! By a long shot. Shot by both sides?
    How very dare you!

    Happy New Year, Mr Simp­son and thanks 4 all the ‘Amuse — Bouches’ on your del­i­cate and flavour­some site.

    Kindly yours:
    Dis­gusted of Malvern Wells, England.

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