Lewis and Martin’s 50’s Love Makes Today’s Bromance Look Like Bromide

lewis martin 2 Lewis and Martins 50s Love Makes Todays Bromance Look Like Bromide

This month’s Out­fea­tures a col­umn by yours truly, called ‘In Defense of Jerry Lewis’, explain­ing how my child­hood love for early Lewis made me the man I am today — and why his anar­chic com­edy part­ner­ship with Dean Mar­tin in the ‘repressed’ 1950s was a kind of queer punk rock before even rock and roll had been invented:

Their heads were so close together in those tiny ‘50s cathode-ray tubes — gaz­ing into each other’s eyes, rub­bing noses, occa­sion­ally steal­ing kisses or lick­ing each other’s neck to shrieks of scan­dal­ized plea­sure from the audi­ence. They were a prime-time study in same-sex love. And they were adored for it — lit­er­ally chased down the street by crowds of scream­ing women and not a few men…’.      (‘In Defense of Jerry Lewis’)

Though these clips below prob­a­bly explain it all rather better.

They also show how com­pared to Mar­tin and Lewis, today’s much vaunted ‘bro­mance’ come­dies are more akin to bro­mide. Les­bian bed death with­out the honeymoon. Instead of going out of their way to purge their stage romance of any hint of pas­sion or any­thing phys­i­cal in the way that annoy­ingly self-conscious, college-educated 21st Cen­tury buddy come­dies do (the word ‘bro­mance’ itself sug­gests that any hint of erotics would be akin to incest), Mar­tin and Lewis’ blue-collar, mid-century love-affair con­stantly injects it. Flags it up. And slaps your face with it. Theirs is lit­er­ally a much more tick­lish affair. And a shit­load fun­nier for it.

What’s more, it looks very con­vinc­ing.

(Oh, and yes, it may be that I still feel fond of Jerry Lewis because his telethons never made it to the UK.…)

An exploi­sion of D&J kisses in this cheeky and charm­ing clip painstak­ing com­piled by a YouTube fan.

‘It’s phys­i­cal attraction.’


The noise made by the audi­ence when Dean falls on top of Jerry in the bath wouldn’t be heard again until Elvis shook his pelvis.


Jerry gets some big pricks in the Navy and then sprays every­where.


Dean and Jerry join the Army as para­troop­ers. Watch Dean’s eyes dur­ing the blan­ket scene.

‘I was loine­some.‘



Spot a (very tiny-looking) James Dean giv­ing a boxer a rub-down while scop­ing the com­pe­ti­tion.


A slightly fic­tion­lised account of how our boys met, com­plete with closet clinch cli­max.


Never been kissed… Yeah, right.



Spe­cial thanks to the Cana­dian play­wright Elise Moore and Han­nah for re-kindling my unhealthy Lewisian love-affair, offer­ing insight­ful obser­va­tion — and send­ing me some really great YouTube Mar­tin & Lewis love.


26 Comments

  • Per­son­ally to me the chem­istry that they showed on screen was NO big brother/fatherly love it was greater then that, it was the “roman­ti­cally” type that in some cases it screamed s*xual ten­sion!!! See for your self by read­ing the book “Dean and me: a Love Story” which was writ­ten by Jerry Lewis, watch a bunch of clips on you tube (just watch their body lan­guage) and.… read this file that the FBI released a few years ago… http://www.thesmokinggun.com/documents/crime/fbis-dean-martin-dirt-0
    I also don’t seem to see what the big deal was if they were gay and as the old say­ing goes one does not truly choose who they fall in love with. Oh by the way seance they slept and were attracted to women that would make them BIS*XUAL!!!!

  • Paul, it’s funny. Lighten-up!

    T’was a time when one of a gay man’s most endear­ing traits was his abil­ity to laugh at him­self. Self-irony seems to have been ban­ished as soon as ‘Out’ started pub­lish­ing banns.

    I sup­pose you don’t like Elmer Fudd because the char­ac­ter makes fun of speech impediments.

    Scwewy wab­bit!

  • Cou­ple of points. We’ve talked at some length about how con­fin­ing (suf­fo­cat­ing?) ‘gay’ can be. You could get away with a lot more in that pre-Stonewall period, because it wasn’t ‘so gay’. Mar­tin and Lewis came out right on the heals of ‘Sex and the Amer­i­can Male’ so it wasn’t as if their audi­ence was com­pletely benighted. They’re working-class so the rules of polite soci­ety don’t apply. Their rela­tion calls to mind he condign homo­sex­ual rela­tion­ships between late 19th and early 20th cen­tury working-class blokes before they saved up enough to marry a bird. I think you wrote a piece about that at one point.

    Stay­ing on point: I just remem­bered Doris’ 1964 (or 5 BS) com­edy ‘The Glass-Bottom Boat’, directed by Frank Tash­lin, who also directed the Martin-Lewis movies (as well as sev­eral Bugs Bunny car­toons). Co-starring Paul Lynde and Dom Deluise. At the end i seem to recall one of them end­ing up in bed with a gen­eral — amore! Need to re-watch.

    Bugs — now there was a first-class queen: ‘my stars, look at those nails!’

  • I need to watch ‘The Glass-Bottomed Boat’!

  • Oh my, what lovely arti­cles. Yes, it seems to me that those ppl who claim Jerry and Mil­ton and Bob to be homo­pho­bic are miss­ing the entire point, and clearly havent seen any of those old movies :P Cuz omg, Bob Hope and Bing Crosby were totally on screen bfs too, and they, like Dean and Jerry, sadly broke up as well…

    Ravynne, who found this arti­cle and shared it with me, actu­ally is the one who shared Dean and Jerry with me a cou­ple years ago, before which I had barely even heard of them. Fol­low­ing that intro­duc­tion we stud­ied them reli­giously for four months straight, hardly doing any­thing else.

    Dean and Jerry’s love still con­tin­ues to hold our inter­est, the boys are very dear. Thank you for writ­ing these arti­cles, it’s great to see that aware­ness is pick­ing up about these two. And for using my mv ^-^ It made our Halloween.

  • Well, he did have the balls, George. Which of course then brings into doubt the rest of your log­i­cal, well rea­soned and rigourously sup­ported claims.…

  • You will not have the balls to print this but we all know that MS is a messed up bigot reek­ing of self loathing. A bird­brain sell­out and fraud.

  • But what if one suf­fers from the sick­ness of being aroused by the whole­some­ness of LGBTQ normality?

    I read AfterEl­ton every day and get a ripe ol’ hardon for their homo-sanctity.

  • That is truly kinky, my friend. I salute you.

  • Can I state for the record that I am hav­ing quite sat­is­fy­ing sex­ual fan­tasies about the young Jerry Lewis in these clips.… and I am ashamed that I could be attracted to a male who is so clearly homo­pho­bic as to lick another man, kiss him, be ser­e­naded by him, to fall into bed with him, or to drag him into a bath.

  • Shame on you! You have no self-respect! You’re giv­ing us all a bad name! You should be watch­ing Milk instead. No chance of being aroused by that whole­some movie.…

  • Sarah, YOU need to check your facts before writ­ing. I am not going to go into a detail that space does not allow to edu­cate you but Mil­ton Berle sued when any­one said he was gay and Bob Hope had to be taken to task many times by gay groups for his vicious ¨Fag¨jokes. Not that it would mat­ter to you. Love the homo­phobe not the vic­tims seems to be the motto here. You can live in the 1950´s with your idols of clay. Excuse any mis­takes as I am writ­ing from a key­board in Nicaragua not geared to English.

  • princess wrote:

    I agree– Jerry is so post-gender– so great– really a genius IQ also. Think about Don Rick­les– just polit­i­cally incor­rect but no one is both­ered by it-the same with Jerry –that stuff is just made up by the press!

    If you ever get a chance– check out a Col­gate Com­edy show that was cut from the movie You’re never too young. Jerry is a hand­some insanely French bar­ber and Dean his unwill­ing cus­tomer– they sing Relax-a-voo-and mad­ness ensues. Check out all their singing/dancing youtube ideos-you will love them! True talent!

  • Sarah Jo wrote:

    Wow, I can’t believe these post…I don’t know where some of you get your facts, but Mil­ton
    Berle was in an episode of Roseanne in the 90’s where two men got mar­ried, seri­ously, how can
    you be homo­pho­bic? And as for Bob Hope, he was best friends with The Vil­lage Peo­ple, and stood
    up for them when the navy banned their song “In the Navy” when they found out they were gay,
    hmmm, does that really sound homo­pho­bic? And Jerry? Yeah, right, he was best friends
    with Sammy Davis Jr. who was Bisexual…so,yeah…Anyways, this is a great arti­cle Mark,
    I really don’t know what the prob­lem is with these com­ments. And My friend Mag­pie made
    that won­der­ful first video, “Oh, Boy”!

  • Thanks Sarah, please tell your friend Mag­pie that her clever mon­tage is sim­ply love-ly.

  • Well, Mark. It tis Mark, eh? Guess there are two types: those who sup­port gay rights/equality/liberation and those who love those who oppose it and make excuses for them. It seems much of your venom in your writ­ings aims at the for­mer. That really speaks loud and clear. It has noth­ing at all to do with butch/fem or any other issues.

  • A course in Gay Rights? Per­haps, Paul, you could edu­cate me — this is the Gay Move­ment ™ which says that monogamy and mar­riage is good? That camp and any behav­iour that is not “straight act­ing” / het­ero­sex­ual mim­icry is bad? That gay and les­bian soci­ety has now “matured” from our tur­bu­lent ado­les­cence, and thus drag queens and gen­der trans­gres­sives and sluts and ho’s and any­one who dare be “dif­fer­ent” dare not attend a Pride March for fear of giv­ing the Gay Com­mu­nity ™ a Bad Name?

    Have we become so humour­less that we can’t look at these Lewis and Mar­tin clips and see them in any­thing but the strict, positive-promoting ortho­doxy that passes for gay cul­ture these days? Or is it that in claim­ing Lewis as queer, and given the cur­rent stand­ing that Lewis has in the Gay and Les­bian Com­mu­nity, Mark Simp­son has betrayed us all? Is it the mes­sage or the messenger?

    So because Lewis was caught say­ing one com­ment to one per­son, he is a homo­phobe from now and for­ever? No recog­nis­ing him as being raised in a soci­ety that had a dif­fer­ent view of same-sex attracted peo­ple, no thought to the con­text of the com­ment? Mean­while, peo­ple who are gay and who have been clos­eted since the 50s can come out today and be auto­mat­i­cally accepted (with open arms) by the Gay Com­mu­nity as role models?

    At least Jerry Lewis (a het­ero­sex­ual) was being dif­fer­ent, was push­ing bound­aries whilst many oth­ers (homo­sex­ual) were hid­ing in the closet and mim­ic­ing their straight friends. Give me Jerry any day — both trans­gres­sively queer and funny.

  • Nice work, Mark. Whether one views Lewis as an Enemy Homo­phobe or a mis­un­der­stood, elder states-punk of Amer­i­can com­edy (guess which camp I’m in), to ignore his early career with Mar­tin is to ignore a huge part of the his­tory of com­edy and pop cul­ture sex­u­al­ity in the US.

    tzikeh, I love your Fosse-spotting.
    Fosse and Mary Ann Niles were on the Col­gate Com­edy Hour with Mar­tin and Lewis in 1951– check it out:

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Rq44ql5cPDY

    The moves Fosse does around the neigh­bor­hood of 3:15–3:20 clearly made an impres­sion on Lewis…
    He starts imi­tat­ing them at around :09 in this clip which I believe is from later in the same sea­son (although I’m not sure.)

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HD_0qbeCJ6Q

    In the first clip, Lewis does a neat bit of work pre­sent­ing him­self and Mar­tin as a cou­ple who go to see shows together all the time. (Or per­haps not all the time. As some of the busiest peo­ple in show busi­ness at the time, they prob­a­bly had to sched­ule a weekly date night or something.)

  • Lewis is a homo­phobe and not because of his act­ing here. Het­ero­sex­ual males play­ing their per­cep­tion of Gay on 1950’s US telly (such as Mil­ton Berle and Bob Hope) were anti-Gay in real life and were ridi­cul­ing homo­sex­u­als on TV. It was thought to be hilar­i­ous that a man would hug another. A “fag joke” and not funny. It is pathetic that posters like Sisu need a course in Gay Rights to under­stand why we do not want to pro­mote homo­phobes. And really pathetic that Mark Simp­son is so dazed by pop cul­ture (1950’s yet!) that he holds a “fag joke” to be the model for Gay rela­tion­ships. Laugh at Lewis and Marin if you have noth­ing else to tickle you but they are no mod­els for me.

  • Hey pal­lie Mark, thanks for sharin’…just won­derin’ if you have read the jer’s book on his rela­tion­ship with our Dino.…“Dean and Me?”

  • While prob­a­bly not as instantly rec­og­niz­able as James Dean, Bob Fosse is the sec­ond “goil” from the left (“Audrey”) in “Never Been Kissed.” It took me a moment to be 100% cer­tain, but on that first close-up (“the boys always whis­tle when she passes by”), Fosse’s unmis­tak­able face is just over Lewis’s left shoul­der. More telling is when the quar­tet do their splay-kneed, jazz-hands, head-snap reac­tion to “Whaaaat? Yes!” Though he may not have been “Bob Fosse” at that point, he clearly chore­o­graphed the number.

  • Jim Smith wrote:

    Homo­pho­bia? It’s PHYSICAL com­edy. It’s silly, it made me smile, and would be funny no mat­ter which gen­ders were par­tic­i­pat­ing. Jeez.

  • Can I be a homo­phobe too?

    I like the way that a per­son can be auto­mat­i­cally dis­counted as worth­less should they dare to cross the Com­mu­nity in any way, shape or form. Whether it be poor vac­u­ous Miss Cal­i­for­nia or Jerry Lewis, they are clearly Not a Friend to the Gay Com­mu­nity and thus have passed up any excuse to be a human being. Or even to be a sub­ject of one of Mark’s columns.

    Any­hoo, the arti­cle, Babs, is not on whether Jerry Lewis is homo­pho­bic, homophilic or homo-overit, but on whether his part­ner­ship with Dean Mar­tin pushed any “bound­aries” (of decency? of good taste? of 50’s repressed gen­der roles? of queer­dom?) — espe­cially in light of today’s bro­mances which push noth­ing in particular.

    But sign me up for being self-hating and homo­pho­bic — I gig­gled over many of the clips.

  • Who wouldn’t be a homo­phobe after all that cavort­ing? I mean if those clips were sex acts — he’d be a one-man bath-house.…

  • Oh please we are over this in Amer­ica. Lewis is a homo­phobe so it doesn’t say much for you Mark.

  • Yes, clearly I’m a homo­phobe too.

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