A Hiding to Nothing: In Defence of Female Masochism

  A good sadist is hard to find. But, I can reveal, a good masochist is even harder to find. Whenever I hear the words, ‘Use me, abuse me, do anything you want with me!’ my heart and my manhood always sinks. Not because I have any problem with the idea of using someone. Rather it’s that I know that not far behind this invitation to selfishness are always the words, ‘Not that! This! Not there! Here!’ And Anita Phillips, author of In Defence of […]